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Jews, Muslims, Christians. ALL Abrahams children. You remember Abraham. Patriarch of all three of these great religions. One family… currently divided. The picture above is of his tomb in Hebron on the West Bank of Palestine. I have personally stood before this great holy site (Abraham’s bones are below these cenotaphs in the Cave of

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I have been marinating in the beauty of aged and toothless John Adam’s heart and mind. My thanks to author David McCullough for an absolutely striking biography of the second president that has brought President Adams to life for me. Prior to my exposure to the second president’s life story, I had been studying the

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I have been thinking a lot. Or maybe you could say I’ve been longing a lot. We all long… But often we aren’t aware of it. I am trying to be much more aware of my longing. In fact, unconscious longing can be dangerous for those of us living the gloriously human condition. I have

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This morning I find myself wondering where my heart starts as I engage the world each day. Do I begin with a heart that is open and offering grace and understanding as I come out of the starting blocks or am I looking to find a “hook to hang” an experience or relationship on? Am

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This hugely important question begs several other vital questions that boggle our finite brains. These are questions that consume many people’s lives, questions that many philosophers and theologians ask but do not believe will ever be answered. Often we slap an unexamined answer up on the blackboard without thorough examination. Here are a few of

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Attachment is committed connection. It is perhaps, our deepest and most primal need. When one feels attached, they sense their partner’s commitment to move deeper and deeper into their own definition of intimacy. Distress enters the picture when one partner feels or expresses anxiety over the felt loss of intimacy. Attachment distress is often relieved

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Part 2: The List of 12 Things In healthy attachment-based dating both partners take turns planning dates each month. Generally, one spouse will plan the first Saturday of the month and the other the third. Date planning is made risk proof by creating a “List of 12 things” each January. This is always one of

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Part 1: Creating incredible into-me-see (Intimacy) One of the most effective tools for dramatic improvement in marital communication is also the most inexpensive and easiest to implement. Over the years, I have come to call it “The Lovers Breakfast”. As the title implies, it’s a breakfast for both spouses beginning with monthly meetings, and then

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What causes you to experience awe and wonder at this point in your life?Do you believe feeling those things is important for you? It is incredibly important for us to experience awe and wonder on a regular basis. Now, I must acknowledge that there are aspects of what I seek in life, that do not

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Each morning I try to begin by allowing God to provide a framework for every new day. No two days are ever the same. And none of us has any idea whether this new day will hold mind blowing changes to our lives or be filled with those beautifully subtle experiences that continue to gently

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One thing that I observed over and over in 45 years of marriage counseling was our tendency as humans to take those closest to us for granted. If I would just say that to most couples, they would almost instinctively reject the notion, and then upon reflection, generally would acknowledge that it is true. The

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Dark Saturday.  That’s what it has always felt like for me. The day between the greatest sacrificial act in human history and RE-surrection. I can only imagine what the disciples and followers of Christ experienced today. But I know it had to feel dark, foreboding and hopeless. Think about it, or better yet, feel about

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