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3 attributes couples need to enhance empathy, Part 3: YOUR perspective
This may be the most challenging element of empathy for some of you. Some of us believe strongly that our perception of life is truth. Or, that at times you feel you know the TRUTH about a situation. Even something as “simple” as who said what last night before bed can be a wonderful example…
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3 attributes couples need to enhance empathy, Part 2: Questioning skills
For many people, the greatest challenge in developing empathy is to be able to genuinely make conversations about the other, not about you. A conversation can start out about the other, but then quickly flip to the one who had planned to be the listener… And the flip can be something that can happen totally…
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3 attributes couples need to enhance empathy, Part 1
Empathy is the magic ingredient for couples who want to enhance closeness and connection. I can guarantee you that there is at least one of you in your relationship who believes they are more empathetic than the other. True? Have you guys fought over this topic? That is a huge waste of precious time and…
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Three aspects of your relationship that lead to great sexual intimacy Part 3
If there is anybody out there who guessed either of the first two aspects that must be nurtured in order to have really exceptional sexual intimacy I applaud your instincts and emotional intelligence. But number three is a whole different deal. If you guess this one I’m going to let you take over writing my…
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Three aspects of your relationship that lead to great sexual intimacy – Part 2
Sex is one of the weirdest things we will ever experience in life. It is about so many things all at once! If it was just about procreation we would have sex two or three times during our life and then call it good. But like most mammals, we have discovered that it feels good…
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Three aspects of your relationship that lead to great sexual intimacy
Everyone, absolutely everyone, will agree that there is a sharp drop off in sexual intensity in a relationship somewhere between six and nine months. It’s not that it will never return… Oh, it will, but it’s like kids returning home from college; they rarely announce their coming and you never know when they will leave…
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How to maintain a lasting friendship with your spouse, Vol.3
Before I launch into part three of the top three ways to maintain an ass-kicking friendship in marriage, I want to give you a question to continue to ask. This question not only applies in a profound way to marriage, but I believe to every aspect of a well lived life. That question is, “how…
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How to maintain the lasting friendship with your spouse, Vol. 2
We have agreed that 1) friendship is a vital element of any healthy marriage 2) the number one element in maintaining that deep and abiding friendship is mutual respect. Right? So given those assumptions, I believe the number two most important aspect of healthy marital friendship is time and presence. No, I am not cheating…
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How to maintain a lasting friendship with your spouse, Vol.1
Welcome to my new, how to more effectively manage every aspect of relationships by the numbers blog. Today will be, drumroll please…. The three most important ways to maintain a lasting friendship year in and year out in your marriage. Most blogs on marriage focus on how to maintain the tingle factor in marriage. Gravity…
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The Beginning of Spirituality
Everybody has it, it the point where all the seedlings of real faith comes into being but very few people can identify what it is. So, first of all, I want to find out if you know what it feels like. C. S. Lewis called it “an encounter with joy”. And then in his first…
